Xiaxue VS Gushcloud Saga - A Publicity Stunt?

Wow. So much drama over a short period.

I believe most of you would have heard about it by now - It's all over the media. (If you haven't, then I guess you may be living in a well or something)

Yes, it's the recent Xiaxue Vs GushCloud saga.

Granted that both sides have given their say, can you tell who is the REAL victim here?

The blogging industry may not be as glorious as it may appear to be, and yes - It has its really dark side, and I would say these are the few possibilities: (I am not making concrete assumptions;but just merely noting down points that MAY be POSSIBLE)

1) Everything is a well-orchestrated publicity stunt (You never know)

Win-win situation. Nobody is suing anyone here. Nobody gets hurt, but everyone involved gets the publicity. Even those previously unknown bloggers can get that bit of limelight from this saga.

2) It's a competitor thing

It's common that this industry is getting competitive now. With so many companies (including those big brands) seeking bloggers as part of their marketing campaign (Do not belittle the power of social media), bloggers form a huge part of the influential process in the world today.

It has always been known that NN and GC are competitors, and it isn't unusual that such methods are "implemented" to kill off the other party once its a rising threat. Jealousy kills.

Whatever it is, everyone has gotten their piece of cake - Bad publicity is publicity, too. There are many bloggers out there who depend on blogging full-time as a living, and such publicity is pretty much needed. It's their main source of income, you know?
I will not be surprised if most of them GAINED and benefited from the saga more than losing their reputation. Afterall, the "damage" has been done and they are having everyone's attention now.

I am definitely not taking any sides here.

At least... I'm still a decent blogger and am glad to be out of these mess.
(I was actually approached by Gushcloud once, but I guess I still prefer to be my own influencer. LOL)
 Now let's sit back and watch as the episode unfolds.

[Shameless] So You are looking for a BOYFRIEND... ...

Seriously, what IS wrong with the mindset of females lately?

After my previous post on the now-infamous Heather Chua, (click to read it if you haven't) here comes another joker that I came across on TheRealSingapore website.

Basically, it's about a local Singaporean girl who resides in Australia - and she is currently calling out for a potential boyfriend who is able to fit her bill.

It's definitely not as easy as it sounds though. What may seem like an innocent-looking title "I want to find a boyfriend" comes with a HUGE price -that is, if you ever are interested to contact her.

She has listed her expectations of her ideal partner in the open letter, and oh boy, did they sound ridiculous.

I am sure I am not the only one having my blood boiled here after reading the whole chunk of text.

Read on if you do not mind to hear about how such girls CAN indeed exist.

As stated in the first paragraph of her letter.. (in which you can tell that she doesn't really have the courtesy to write in a nicer/polite tone)

1) "I am not a patient person and I especially hate wasting my time and waiting for guys who are never online to talk."

2) "I have very expensive taste and I enjoy the finer things in life. I am not a simple girl with simple tastes. I simply refuse to have a boring housewife life where I just manage the home and take care of the kids and not have a life of my own. I want a guy who will provide me with an extravagant lifestyle- he must be able to take me on expensive cruises and holidays and stay at 5 star hotels and dine at the finest restaurants and take me on shopping sprees. I want a guy who treats me like a princess all the time."

3) "I'll tell you upfront that I am looking for a rich guy. He must be financially able to pay for EVERYTHING- bills, petrol, groceries, mortgage, kids, wedding, honeymoon, etc...and I should not have to pitch in a single cent. I am NOT paying for anything. With me, there is no such thing as ‘going halves’, ‘you pay this, I pay that’ or 'let's split the expenses'- none of that nonsense. I believe the guy pays for everything and I am never backing down from that ever. If that doesn’t suit you, don’t click the ‘contact’ button. It’s simple."

4) " I also want the sort of guy who would give me access to his money without questions without reservations. It’s about trust and the guy I ultimately choose must be able to give me that."

After penning down so much of your expectations... I have one question burning in my head:

"WITH SUCH ATTITUDE... ...WHICH PART OF YOU DESERVE WHAT YOU ASKED FOR?"
So you mean.. not a single cent of the money you earn shall be used on your potential boyfriend?
And it will be something like,

"OH, it's Valentine's Day. Come on, darling. Buy me gifts. Buy me some big diamonds. Make me happy. Take me to high-class restaurants. But you get NOTHING from me, OK?"

Searching for a boyfriend or true love isn't an one-sided thing. It seemed as though she is just effortlessly waiting for the perfect one to come to her without having to do ANYTHING.

Hello, are you seeking for God or a boyfriend?

Firstly, you are not someone of high status yourself. The mentality of having someone worthy enough to be your boyfriend is just so silly. Come on, prove that you are worthy to be treated that way FIRST. 

Don't get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having idealistic expectations. BUT THERE IS DEFINITELY SOMETHING WRONG IF YOU THINK YOU ARE SO DESERVING, especially after displaying such a stuck-up attitude... so much that it's off-putting.

I am not sure if you (after reading her letter) may feel the same way as I did - that is, how she managed to make everything sound like people OWE her.

Come on, you are LOOKING for a boyfriend. Instead of being humble and appreciative of guys that initiate contact, you are throwing in so many demands and making it sound like you are one hell of a precious gem that's too good to be missed.

Do you expect people to treat you the way you asked for, based on just mere descriptions of yourself?
Judging from the way you write (despite the fact that I have to admit your grasp of the English Language is good), one can simply judge that you are a self-centered soul... A nightmare a guy can ever have.

Honestly, I am not surprised if she is still single. (Probably some self-reflection in the mirror may help?)

Well, I appreciate how her personality seems to show through though - At least, the guy will know what he is in for in advance.

Whatever it is, her future boyfriend is not going to have it easy...
Unless he is up for a lifetime challenge.

Alvin & Yuki Saga

I have been following the recent saga of a real-life drama (Not that I am a no-lifer, but this saga has been brewing ever since it was reported in the news.)

It is not uncommon to watch movies or drama serials that involve a "love triangle". But damn, this is reality. 

It is astonishing how Yuki managed to gather so many supporters on her page within such a short time span that resulted in an influx of  both positive and negative comments.

If you are one who have not heard about the saga, here is the link:

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Alvin-Yuki/253711181424186?fref=ts

Alternatively, you can choose to read this - proudly brought to you by the hardworking peeps at HardwareZone:

http://forums.hardwarezone.com.sg/eat-drink-man-woman-16/blogger-zoe-raymond-got-saga-3786784.html

Credits : (Yuki & Alvin on the left, and blogger Zoe Raymond on the right.)

It's quite a long read, but a very detailed one.

(Somehow it's funny how Yuki, the creator of the page, had make everything sound like a drama. She even split and named her "stories" as "episodes".)

The summary of the whole saga:

1) Girl and Guy about to get married.

2) Guy cancelled the wedding just two months before the big day due to a clingy 3rd party.

3) Girl was devastated and attempted suicide. (but wasn't successful, thank God.)

4) Guy admitted that he doesn't love the Girl he was about to marry anymore.

... Drama right??? =_="

However, IF what Yuki wrote on the page were true, then the 3rd party indeed did make a wrong move. I mean, why in the world would you want to be involved with an about-to-get-married man - unless you are planning to bear the risk of ruining the marriage?

(It's time to put your common sense to good use, lady!)

Yes, love is selfish.

 But one should know its limits and NOT cross the border - which apparently (and unfortunately), the 3rd party did.

But that doesn't mean that the guy isn't in the wrong too. (It seems that many are pushing the fault to the girl alone and NOT the guy.)

*IF* the guy is faithful, will he succumb to the temptation of other girls?

Will HE even agree to meet other girls and take a step further into their friendship?

There is always a common and most-used line when it comes to the relationship being exposed.

"Oh, we are just ordinary friends. Don't think too much!"

Sounds familiar? 

Come on, how "ordinary"is ordinary? Define that.

As much as love is a selfish one, the ball still lies in your court. It is up to you whether you would give in to your temptation.

In other words, it's YOUR choice.

I know because there WERE married men who talked to me in a way that made me feel uncomfortable. I remembered there was even one who told me that he would woo me if he wasn't married. (Yes, he was married with a kid!)

Of course, if I had any means to wreck his marriage - I could.

How would you feel if you are his wife?

But I backed off after I felt that something was not right - and stopped contact altogether.

There were other personal stories - but I guess I shan't reveal too much details here since they were already a part of history. (and this entry is not about me. Haha)

No matter what, I believe this saga is going to end soon... somehow. There is no point in debating who is in the right or wrong anymore.

P/S: Wow, I wasn't aware that I had actually met both Alvin and ZR before during one of our blogger events - until somebody mentioned in Facebook that it was indeed them in the photo:

Can you spot them??